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| Recently in the news there have been stories about the lack of good neighbourlyness in England. What's your experience? On the whole I do not speak to many of my neighbours, but I do live on the main road of detached houses. However, if I'm out doing some work in the front garden then I say hello to the world and his brother. I feel very fortunate to have a lovely neighbour on one side. Today when I arrived home from shopping I made him a cup of tea and we had a quick chat. He's replacing his fence which is far easier done from our side. So I sent Hubby to work in his car and parked mine out of the way and left the gates open for easy access. He raised the subject of my other neighbour saying she had at last changed her horse car (a noisy V8 thing that woke everyone at 6.30am sharp). Then he moaned about her as he regularly does because she never responds if you say good day, or smile at her. He doesn't like it says its rude. I used to chat to her mother, but she suddenly disappeared. When I asked my good neighbour if Pearl was OK, he told me that he had just found out she had died about 3wks earlier. Yet our neighbour never thought to tell us. Our neighbour, who does not speak to us, and has rang before now and complained about the noise during a birthday party. (It was at 5pm!) Once she even rang and complained about the noise my girls were making in our back garden, so I simply apologised and asked if they sounded good, because I could not hear them myself. I let her rant a bit and then explained quietly they were 200 miles away singing in Norwich Cathedral. She hasn't spoken to me since! Oops! Does anyone else have good / bad neighbours? Mini
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We have excellent neighbours. Living in a cul-de-sac which has not yet been adopted by the local council could make a difference, as it is fairly private and we have a "road association" that not only collects contributions from us all to maintain the road but also organises social gatherings. We look after the house of the neighbours on the right whenever they go away on holiday and they do the same for us. The two neighbours on the left have a similar arrangement between themselves.
Summer is a sociable time as people are often out working in their front gardens and neighbours stop to have a chat. The autumn is a very good time to be here too, as everyone swaps whatever surplus fruit they have from their gardens.
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| Dear all, We moved about eight years ago now - to the "poor" end of our community - where we have lovely neighbours. They are friendly and we always have time for one another. the reason for our move was because our (special needs) children were being bullied unmercifully where we used to live (in the wealthier part of our community.... I wonder what this says? God bless, With love as ever, Lesley xx
Just for today, dear Lord, let me realise that there is nothing that we cannot handle together - and may I pray the same prayer tomorrow.....
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| I think it can depend where you live and our willingness to engage with our neighbours. When I lived in London, I remember meeting one set of neighbours when I moved in to a house, and then the next time we spoke was 3 years later! We just didn't see them or vice versa and to a certain degree were all a little bit wary of each other. Where I live now is a village and we get on great with our neighbours. The children play out on the lawns together, we look after each others houses when someone is on holiday etc. I think it is also important to take the initiative too when new neighbours move in. When our next door neighbours moved in, we took a card and gift round to welcome them and now have a great friendship with them. Maybe in a smaller setting it's easier to get to know people and build up a level of trust which is not so easy in a large city.
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You can find it difficult to get to know your neighbours even if you live in a village, as we do. Part of the reason is the high hedges and large gardens. We hardly recognise our nearest neighbours - only a few metres away as the cat runs, but our gates are several minutes walk apart - as I realised when one of their chickens strayed, and I took it home.
Part of the fault is perhaps ours, in that we go to church in the nearest town, and most of our social activities also. So although we have lived here about twenty six years, we don't know many people well at all. From time to time we support the local parish activities, but we would have to really throw ourselves into things to feel as if we "belonged" to village society. Surprisingly, I feel more comfortable with a few people from our previous village, where we lived only five years, where a higher proportion were "incomers".
.....Perhaps it's not surprising after all.
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| We live in a rural lane and know all the neighbours enough to pass the time of day. We don't live in each others pockets but are there if the need arises.
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